I was contemplating the title of this blog post as it popped into my head. There seem to be "experts" out there giving us any number of steps or advice to any issue on the face of the planet these days. Ideas, answers, and possibilities are infinite, however, and this title is more in jest of those articles containing numbered lists.
Happiness is not a get-rich-quick scheme either. Happiness is not a destination point. Happiness is a choice in how to be at any present moment. And, I think, most of us would choose happiness on a regular basis. But, it's not always easy and there are physical and metaphorical clouds that occasionally show up. When that happens, it's always nice to get a little help to boost you to sunny skies again.
The other day I was feeling cloudy (the grey type) and a little insecure. Anxiety started to kick into gear and I wasn't sure how to stop the cycle, but I knew I had to get grounded. First thing I did was deep breathe myself into the present. Next, I grabbed my current favourite book of infinite wisdom. With a rose quartz stone in hand, I read through some pages which - by the time I was done - calmed me and gave me a few things to think about regarding my lack of happiness of the moment. I wasn't 100%, but I definitely had something to go on.
I have turned to many sources in difficult times that I have been grateful for. I've created my own personal get-yourself-together-girl library of books, websites, Facebook and Instagram accounts. Maybe one day I will write about those (a list!), but for now I will share some thoughts from my favourite book. Maybe someone out there will need this, or at least it will get some of you thinking. It always does for me.
- it's okay sometimes if the only thing you are able to handle is breathing.
- "they" do not exist, so stop worrying about what "they" think or say.
- stop mindlessly doing what you are told to do. Question your own actions and see how they sit with you.
- act on integrity.
- find time to wander more.
- go outside.
- you are enough.
- be your own best friend. You're technically the only one that "has your back."
- don't just give yourself time to heal, but let yourself heal.
- if something is not okay...it's okay. Acknowledge it so you can process and move on.
- consider quality over quantity.
- create, not conquer.
- rid yourself of toxicity; not only who, but what.
- be grateful.
- find what inspires you.
- stop judging...including yourself. What is right for some, is not right for others. What is working for some, is not working for others.
- LET GO. You will survive...as will those people, ideas, or things you cling to.
- we do not leave this life needing a resume, so stop trying to "sell" yourself to others and trying to make it all look perfect.
There you have it. I didn't even count all the points.
There are more of course (remember, infinite), but this is what resonates with me right now. I hope this could help stir some of your own thoughts regarding happiness and maybe you will share one day. What is my favourite book of infinite wisdom? My journal that I've been writing in over the last two years. Yes, we all have the potential to become our own personal messengers. How great is that? What is greater is that we do have a choice in our personal well-being, at a very deep level even. It takes work - lots of it - and can get overwhelming and tiring at times. But we are more apt to succeed at our own happiness with that work, than by waiting for someone or something to bring it to us. Because I'm sure you've heard it before: happiness comes from within. xo